8 Harsh Truths About Men That Most Women Don’t Understand

Joe Elvin
6 min readMay 24
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Many women struggle with dating because they don’t understand men.

These 8 harsh truths of male psychology will help you connect better with your dream man and inspire him to commit to you.

1. Most Men Are Lonelier Than You Think

Ladies, have you ever seen a hot guy at the bar and wondered why he’d ever choose you?

Maybe you’ve told yourself that he probably has plenty of women vying for his attention.

Well, statistically, that’s unlikely to be true.

Men are lonelier than ever.

Data shows that the bottom 80% of attractive men on dating apps are basically getting NO ATTENTION.

And it’s not as if these guys are slaying in the real world either. In many cases, you might be the only woman interested in them right now.

Of course, that won’t always be true. Perhaps you’re chasing a top 10% guy who all the women in your city want.

But it’s worth understanding that a lot of good-looking guys have no romantic options at all.

2. Most Men Are Terrified To Talk To You

You might get approached in the bar, but understand that’s nearly always by the 1–2% of ‘players’ in your city.

These are the guys approaching every hot woman they see. If it doesn’t work out with you, they’ll try it with someone else within minutes.

Don’t believe it’s only 1–2% of guys doing all the real-life approaches?

Well, I help to run a social network dedicated to single men who want to learn how to get better with women. But even most of these guys never get over their ‘approach anxiety’.

So, if you’re barely getting approached by good guys, understand that it’s not your fault.

Most good guys are terrified to talk to women.

Joe Elvin

I help men to escape their comfort zones, improve their self-esteem and make smarter dating decisions. Buy my book 'Big Dick Energy' at https://amzn.to/3HxnwiH